Hello and welcome to the second week of CosmopolitanThe month of the engagement ring. In an effort to find out what our readers think of the whole tradition of engagement rings these days, we polled over 1,500 people across the United States via SurveyMonkey: 948 people who have or have had engagement rings. engagement and 610 people who are not yet engaged. but I would like a ring in the future. Interestingly enough, even though the ritual of giving a ring dates back to ancient Rome, according to our investigation, the custom is still going strong. the decisive moment to get engaged.
Before we dive deeper into the results, a brief overview of our methodology and some insight into who our respondents are: 99% identify as female and 94% identify as straight, i.e. not gay or lesbians. Eighty-one percent of respondents are between the ages of 25 and 34, and 24% have a household income between $100,000 and $149,999. Responses came from all over the country: 24% of respondents live in New England, 20% live in the South, 19% live in the Midwest, 18% live in the Mid-Atlantic, 7% live in the Pacific coastal region. , and less than three percent live in the Southwest region or the Rockies. We deployed this survey via Cosmoson social media, asking dozens of questions about ring styles and favorite stones and opinions on budget, prices and who should foot the bill in the end.
Overall, readers continue to hold traditional mindsets when it comes to wedding-related bling (classic diamonds are still
King queen!), including all the rituals surrounding that shiny something: Among those who are married, engaged or divorced, 94% said they considered their engagement to begin when their partner gave them a ring, and 97% said said their partner proposed to them with a ring. Eighty-one percent said they wear their rings everywhere, every day. Among people who have not been engaged, married or divorced, 97% said they would want their partner to propose a ring to them, and 85% said they would consider their engagement only to begin once they were married. they would have received a ring.
When asked to explain why an engagement ring was important to her, a mid-Atlantic woman who is currently engaged wrote: ‘I am so lucky to share a life with someone that i really love and i want others to know that i am engaged to the love of my life. Another female interviewee from the Midwest who identifies as single wrote, “It’s a physical sign of commitment. Something like a diamond ring isn’t just thrown away, because of its price tag, so that tells me you’re really committed and want everyone to know about it.
Ring receivers want to have a say, but also like to be surprised.
You know how you can’t open your Instagram account without seeing a picture of a big diamond staring back at you? That’s because 78% of respondents who have or have had rings said they announced their engagement on social media with a photo featuring their ring. It’s also likely that the person wearing the ring in the photo had a say in the jewelry: 79% of respondents said they told their partners what type of ring they wanted before getting engaged, but only 43% said they actually knew what their ring was. would look like.
Alternatively, 67% of respondents who have never been engaged, married or divorced said they would like to be surprised – as in, they would rather do not know what their ring looks like in advance.
Diamond rings are, as always, in fashion.
While it’s no surprise to see stones other than diamonds adorning rings these days, 93% of respondents who have or had an engagement ring said theirs featured a diamond (90% of those who want rings said they would like a diamond engagement ring, too). Among all the respondents, the most popular diamond cut is the round, with the oval shape coming second. Prong settings are the most popular, while halo and pavé settings come second and third, and 48% of ring owners said their diamonds weighed between one and two carats. (Sixty-two percent admitted that the size of their stone was “somewhat important” to them.)
When it comes to rings and settings, 86% of people who have or have had rings said their rings are thin, and the most popular type of metal is white gold (40%), followed closely by by yellow gold (38%). When asked what words might describe their current or favorite engagement rings, readers overwhelmingly chose “classic” and “traditional.” None of our readers (okay, fine, technically, 4%) care that their rings are out of fashion.
Of those respondents who already have the goods, most said that neither their rings nor their stones are passed down through family members – in other words, there isn’t much recycling between generations, and 70% of readers say they tried between 1 and 5 rings before finding “the one”. Even though 30% of people found inspiration for their rings on Pinterest (and 26% via Instagram), the internet is not where the majority of purchases take place: 61% chose to buy their rings from a local jeweler .
The partners make the purchases.
One of the most important considerations when choosing a ring (and talking to your partner about a ring) is the price. (If you want to know more about all money matters, you can read our Budget explainer here.) When asked who bought their ring, 92% of respondents said their partner paid the bill. Twenty-seven percent say their ring costs between $10,000 and $20,000, and 26% say their ring costs between $5,000 and $10,000. Eleven percent of readers don’t know how much their rings cost.
We also asked respondents to discuss how they arrived at a budget. 35% said, “I found a ring I liked and its price set the budget.” Sixty-two percent did not discuss the budget before purchasing the ring, although dozens of respondents wrote that their partner, who paid for the ring, determined the budget. As one engaged Southern woman wrote, “He made up his mind. I gave the parameters of what I wanted and where I was willing to lower my expectations based on price.
Of those currently in a relationship or single, 30% said they think you should spend $5,000 to $10,000 on a ring, and 78% said it’s important to talk to your partner about it. a budget before choosing a ring.
But when asked if respondents told others about the total cost of their ring, it’s clear that mum is the word: 86% of people said they didn’t tell anyone the details of the final bill . As one committed Mid-Atlantic woman put it, “It’s (respectfully) none of their business.”